#MoreThanAMutha is all about celebrating the things that women are, as well as being amazing mothers. In a world where many women feel like they lose their identity when they become a mum, it is important to celebrate and shout that we might be mums, but we are not only that and we are still a force to be reckoned with.
What makes you more than a mother?
I took the brave step last summer to quit my 15+ year career in accountancy to go self-employed and work in internet marketing. I now trade in domain names, run a website selling waist shaping products plus I have my own blog!
Are people surprised when they realise you are more than a mum? Does that bother you?
I find that people of older generations are still surprised that I want to do something with my time, and don’t want to be a full time stay at home mum. It doesn’t bother me, but sometimes it’s hard to explain exactly what I do now.
What challenges do you face when you’re juggling motherhood and being more than a mum?
I’m finding that internet marketing and blogging don’t fit neatly into the three days that my daughter is at nursery (my son is at school). I’m very lucky to co-parent with my husband, so we can share childcare.
How long did it take you to remember you were more than a mother after you had your child(ren)?
It took a good two years after I had my second child, I was so wrapped up in family and employment that I didn’t really have time to think about myself.
Who, or what, helps you to make time for yourself? What do you do to escape the stresses of motherhood?
Being self-employed is amazing for this, as I can go and get my nails or hair done whilst the children are at school/nursery, without feeling guilty.
What advice would you offer a mum who might not be feeling like they are more than someones mum right now?
It is the hardest job in the world, and there will always be mum guilt, but happy mum = happy kids. Sometimes you do have to put yourself first for the benefit of everyone.
Any advice for someone who is going through the same things as you are right now in their quest to be #MoreThanAMutha?
It’s scary, but open your mind up to very opportunity. If you’d told me a year ago that I’d be a self-employed blogger and writer (instead of an employed accountant) I’d have laughed hysterically, but I absolutely love it!
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